Maturity, it seems…

I was hardly planning to say anything even remotely close to this but a small remark sparked it off and set me thinking. Meeting properly with a friend from the past it seemed, to feel safe and let the guard down.

15 minutes later, she had left, but I was left pondering. How much have people changed? One year, and they have become “mature”, she had said. I couldn’t help strolling down the memory lane, a semester ago when I was told I was lucky to be home. Startled I asked back why!!! I miss you ppl! The reply I got: but you wouldn’t if you knew the way things are now.

Since when did being selfish get tagged as “being mature”? Well I thought being mature meant making the right choices at the right times! Being rude to people who actually care, to live a surface life, telling others you are their “good friend” but what you actually are is using them because you don’t have another choice. Sharing a life with some because its convenient, forgetting what others have done for you!

Another facet of the human mind is yet unexplored. The minute guys get “committed”, they forget the life they once had with friends. I don’t understand which part of the obvious is so not obvious to them. Friends will always stand by you no matter what decision you take. Well, correction. That didn’t include ignoring them totally.

I can’t help remembering a senior’s words which were so obscure to me then. College life loses its charm once you cross the first year, she opined. She was right. They say they are making the right choices, being mature and doing what needs to be done. What happened to living life my way? Just words said in fashion, I guess.

The necessity to crash on each other just to keep away from going numb, when things fall apart, to forgive, the struggle to forget some broken promises, failing to rise up and be someone from the heart, to feel warm. The urge to be perfect, to be “mature”. Now it may all seem perfect and controllable. But one fine day the perfect world will come crashing, the perfect person will be someone you will hate and the perfect time when friends have be there, will be the time they ll shut you out. Think twice before you say “I have become mature, that’s all”!